Satisfy Your Partner

Lovemaking Techniques

The best lovers are those who are open to advice, and who realize that there’s always room for improvement. That’s because each partner is different and will not respond in the same way that to things that you do. There have been many books written on specific physical techniques for pleasing your lover and you should by all means read these. However, in a general sense, the best lovemaking techniques for satisfying your partner are very basic.

Don’t be afraid to ask

It’s a very sad fact that many couples can communicate wonderfully on every topic under the sun…except sex. There’s no need to be embarrassed. After all, sex is a natural part of life. Quite frankly, if you’re not comfortable enough with your partner to discuss sex, you probably shouldn’t be having sex with them in the first place.

How can you really know what the other person needs if you don’t talk to them? Encourage you partner to reveal their likes and dislikes to you, and be open to doing the same. If you see that they’re having difficulties, ask pointed questions: Does this feel good? Where do you need to be touched?

Foreplay is a good thing

Have you ever heard the term ‘getting there is half the fun’? Well for some people it’s a much bigger part of the fun than that. Sure, intercourse itself is great…but imagine how much better it’ll be for your partner if you can get them all worked up before that. If you’re not sure what to do, here are some ideas:

· Treat your partner to a sensual massage, focusing on the erogenous zones.

· Set the mood. It may be clichéd but scented candles and soft music can really up the ante in the romance game.

· Take time to groom each other. A nice, steamy shower together, or better yet a bubble bath, can be incredibly arousing

Pay attention

Actions really do speak louder than words, and words can be a little difficult to come by in the heat of the moment. Everyone has subtle, and not so subtle, clues that they give out when they are enjoying themselves. Does your partner’s breathing change when you touch a particle spot? How is their body responding to you? Learn to read the cues they are giving you and adjust your actions to suit.

Be Willing To Experiment

There’s no need to cringe…we’re not talking about anything kinky here, although if that’s what you’re into then more power to you. If your partner brings up a new idea that they’d like to try, it doesn’t mean that you’ve been doing anything wrong or that you’re inadequate. In fact, you should be pleased that they are comfortable enough with you to bring it up.

Of course if there is something that you would like to try, or you’ve thought of something that can spice up your sex life, by all means start a discussion about it. The worst that can happen is they’ll say no…and remember to be very understanding if they do. This will show your partner that they themselves can be at ease and open with you.

Once you’ve mastered the techniques given above, you’ll find that there’s a much greater intimacy to your love making…and that’s the bottom line to it all. With intimacy comes a deeper sense of sexual awareness and a greater level of comfort with your partner.

05.11.2008. 06:18